Cut yourself some slack

We all start the year with so much passion and motivation, writing down our goals and hoping that we will have achieved them by a certain time. Along the way life happens, people disappoint us, we go through heartbreaks, but we also get to know how strong we were all along, we get that new job, we meet new people etc.

We are now counting down days to 2020 and that alone can be nerve wrecking and with a little pressure maybe because you thought that you would have accomplished something by now but haven’t life always has its ups and downs but that’s the beauty of it.

 A few months ago I got to buy assets for my company and to be honest I didn’t tell so many people about it and when I did it was a by the way story. A friend of mine was disappointed because she thought that I didn’t take it tooo seriously. In my defence I was still shocked that I had actually done that but a part of me knew that I wanted more. I wanted to have bought more assets, be debt free, earn more from my employer and so here I was looking at what I didn’t have rather than count my blessings.

How many times do we do that to ourselves? Because we had these big goals we feel like we have failed ourselves by not having reached them rather than appreciate the small steps we have taken so far.

We need to cut ourselves some slack and appreciate where we already are right now in life. You overcame battles you never thought you would, you were there for someone when they didn’t have someone in their corner, you left that toxic relationship and you paid someone’s lunch that alone is progress hunny.

Stop being too hard on yourself. I know we (myself included) want something grand to happen so that we can be proud of ourselves but don’t despise the small steps that you are taking now.

 Galatians 6:9-“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up”

I was reading Tyler Perry’s book ~Higher is Calling~ and he put is so clear that we need to appreciate where we are now but still keep going. Here is part of the book:

While I celebrated with my hands waving in the air, I thought about the power of staying in the race no matter what obstacles are present. It made me think about how we can set a huge goal for ourselves, one that may be really tough to reach. It can seem hopeless or even impossible. Circumstances in our lives may distract us.

We may forget to stop along the way to take note of our small victories. Instead of staying in the present, appreciating the gifts of the here and now, we get lost in the future. We can get frustrated because we think we’re running out of time. We may forget to say, “Thank you, God, for where I am right now.”

If that happens, you need to know this: Even though you haven’t reached your goal yet, with each step you are getting closer. Don’t think about the finish line.

Enjoy the race! Don’t allow yourself to become overwhelmed with how far you still have to go.

Focus on one step at a time.

Be grateful for how far you’ve come.

Thank God for where you are.

Keep going.

Don’t give up yet. Continue being consistent and things will work out.

Here are some of the ways you can do that:

1. Stop comparing yourself with other people

Comparison is a killer of joy, stop it.

2. Count your blessings everyday

Remember the song count your blessings name them one by

3. Be your biggest cheerleader.

When everyone around you is putting you down, you need to be your biggest cheerleader.

You know I love reading from you, let me know in the comment section how you can cut yourself some slack.

Check out tomorrow for my November Stock Take.